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Xeoman

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Posted on 04-11-06 02:01 PM Link | Quote
In other words, my parents want us to move again this summer. This will mark the 11th time I've had to move from one house to another (that's literally).

Seriously, being 18, this has made me think and consider just moving out when this time comes. I'm sick and fed up with this.

Maybe it's silly, but all this moving throughout my life, my childhood, makes me depressed and very stressed at times. I can't stand it. I hate having to pack all of my things back into boxes, moving stuff. Things get lost, it's annoying, it takes all day to do, and for awhile I used to think this current house we lived in would finally be a place I could call "Home". Guess I was wrong.

Right now, I have a lot of privacy. The entire basement is to myself, I can have friends over, even parties and hardly disturb other people in the house. But, this whole having my own space thing is going to end soon probably, as my mom said "You'll probably just be back in your own little room".

And this house we live in now, is probably the largest house we've ever lived in. Growing up with two parents who were both high school dropouts, I'm sure you can imagine our previous houses.

But again, I hate moving. It should say something to say, that even when we moved into this house, from a 1 story home, to this multiple storied home (you could say there's 4 stories, so it's like 4x-5x the size of the house before this one), I had a hard time doing it because I got stressed about it. Even moving into a much bigger house, I was stressed over about it.

In the last house before this one, it took me literally months to finally put all of my things away. For months upon months, I just had a corner full of boxes with stuff in it and didn't even bother to put posters up. I mean, why should I even care? Why should I waste my effort, trying to make my room look like something I want, when we're just going to be moving again, because we just can't stay in one house I guess? That's how I'm starting to think about this current house. I just want to pack my things up now. I don't care if it's a few months before summer, why even waste my time? I've taken time to put up posters nicely, all around the basement. I have all of my systems, 200+ games, TV's, action figures setup for the heck of it, and everything else and now I just feel like I completely wasted my time.

I can see myself doing the same thing when we move this summer. I'll probably keep half of my things in boxes, not caring to take them out, and I don't think I'll put any effort into "decorating" my room at all. I don't think I should even bother since I'll be 19 this year, and will probably be moving out soon anyways.

Anyways, all of this has made me make a promise to myself. I made this promise years ago, and that's to never drag my family around into 10+ different houses. If I get married, have a family, and so forth I will not put them through what I've been through, we will have one, nice, big home and we will stay there.

I mean you guys just probably can't really understand, unless someone can relate. But seriously, I've seen it all. I've lived in 1 story houses, I've lived in a Trailer, Military homes, Duplex's, parents split up for a year and I was even in one of the shittiest Apartments I've seen in my life (an extremely low point in my life, I can't put into words how depressed I was that year), and once when we get a nice, big house with a huge yard, bit two car garage, and so forth ... we lose it within a year. Just pathetic.

Places I live at are just places I'm currently living at, nothing I'd ever call home. I've never had one.


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Posted on 04-11-06 02:46 PM Link | Quote
I can't really relate to your predicament Xeo, but what has caused your parents to move to a new location for the eleventh time?
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Posted on 04-11-06 03:49 PM Link | Quote
I, also, can't relate to your problem seeing as I've lived in the same house since I was a year old.

I do, however, intend on moving out soon, hopefully.

There have been times that I wish I'd moved in my life. I've never gotten to experience getting to know a new place for longer than a couple of weeks.

They say children who grow up in families that move frequently become more independent and self-reliant. It might be stressful now, but consider the growth you'll have experienced while others haven't.

Are you staying in the same area or what?
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Posted on 04-11-06 04:45 PM Link | Quote
Im not going to say weather I relate or not...But I have been in your situation.

When I was little I lived in a trailer in Hamilton Georgia...Mother was a stay at home mom while father was a major house builder. Over the years, sure, we strived...But we made it out of that trailer when both my parents gotten into a fight...

After that fight, we moved to Shiloh, a county where if you blink while driving 40Mph down the road...youll miss it. That place was so bad, the Sherrif of that county was also the postman...Our house was filled with Rats...When we would go buy groceries, the next few days our food supply would have been eaten by rats, and we were forced to buy some more...With that said, later on, My family decided to move again...To Fortson where Uzumaki Lives....

His mother helped my family get a house...A nice big house with one major problem....no heat...

All of us got sick living in that hell hole...I had it the worst. I was diagnosted with a flu so bad I was seeing shit, and it corrupted my brain and I had whelps for about 2 months...The doctors were surprised that I survuved that flu and told my family to move again...So we did

We moved in to where I am staying now...Because my Father (Seeing that he build houses) was going to build all of us a georgous house...Took him about 8 months...but it was worth it...So we moved out and into a beautiful home

This beautiful home was in Cataula...A place not that far from im staying at right now. We had a huge pool, nice cars, I had all the systems of the world, my sister was happy, and my parents were as well...

We lived there for about 3 years. Happy memories developed, I met new friends, Sajin was born...We were moving up in the world...Untill my father became addicted to Crack

3 months later he couldent pay off the bills anymore because of it. The last night I stayed there, mother got into a fist fight with my father and the police came and took me away to my uncles house...

By this time he sent me to military acadamy for 2 years...Diddnt really talk to no one during my time there. All I had was a cot to sleep in and a friend named Blake to talk to for two years...It was like boot camp but JROTC style...

And then after I got back from that hell hole, I finally saw my father again...Two days later he attempted to commit suicide at the front lawn of where mother was staying at...I thank God to this day that he decided not to leave this world...And thus, I had to move in with my mom...

Then for about a year I lived with my mother...Only bad part about this was I had to live with my sister who is always PMSing 24/7...Then I told my mom that I had to live with my Grandmother...And thus I am here now...

Over the years alot of stuff happend, but im not going into more detail...I moved not as many times as you have, but at least I know the feelings your going through...

I always tell myself that "Hey, at least I still have a roof over my head, food on my plate, and cloths to keep me warm!" Thats all there is to it...Just keep motivating yourself and eventually life will see things your way...Keep on keeping on, and ALWAYS...and I mean ALWAYS Think positive...

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Posted on 04-11-06 06:28 PM Link | Quote
I can relate to you in a lesser amount. I have not moved around 11 times, but rather 6. I was in a house with my parents, they split, moved to my dad and moms new homes (my dads was really small), my dad got another home, mom moved away, me and my dad ended up at another house, then another, and now here we are. I feel I'll be in the house I am now for a good while.

But that sucks Xeo. Really. Why are they going to another place again? From the sounds of it the house you're in now is quite good. Are they unable to afford it now or something?
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Posted on 04-11-06 07:24 PM Link | Quote
I only moved twice, but I kinda understand.

I lived in the same house for almost all my life, then we had to move. I was so stressed out. I mean, I'm not the kind of guy to make friends. And I was still in high school...

Then, 3-4 years after, we moved again (thanks god, not that far away, and for a good reason). But a year before we moved, my mom wanted to go real far away. That annoyed me.

Of course, when I was told that I had a say in the decision, that changed everything.

...

Anyway, if you can go live on your own, that'd probably be for the best.
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Posted on 04-11-06 09:28 PM Link | Quote
To everyone asking about our moving, and why: I wish I could really tell you. From what I know, it turns out my parents are only paying rent for this house. But I could've sworn my parent said when we first moved into this house "Phew, I think we're done moving until you guys move out!"

Yeah right. I guess it was just too good to be true, my parents getting back together, us moving into a bigger home.

This really came out of nowhere, I only learned about us moving this summer about a week ago. Again, I could have sworn my parents were saying this was "the last time" ...

As for the first couple of house I lived in, I couldn't tell you then either. I know my dad was in the Military at the time, so that could count for some, but I still have no idea.

For the last couple of house before this one, it was a lot of things. First my dad gets a job at Sprint, and made very good money. So we moved into a large house about the size of this one. Then he gets laid off, twice from Sprint, but we were still able to keep the house.

And then my parents decided to seperate for a year, and there was no way my dad alone could have kept that house. So both he and my mom had to move.

I mean I don't even think my parents understand how I feel about this. I couldn't tell you guys, how many times I've had to re-make friends because of this. I have lost contact with about every Elementary School friend I had, because I moved across the town and went to a different Jr. High than they did. And before that I went to (let me think) 3 different schools, for each year (Kindergarden, 1st Grade, 2nd Grade).

Now I'm older, can drive, and whatnot and it's not a problem with going to different schools or anything, but that doesn't change the past and the fact I've lost a bunch of great friends because of moving so many times.

When my mom brought this up recently, I told her "It's pointless. I might just move out" almost in a threatening way, and she honestly seemed shocked at what I said. She asked "Why? You could save money when you go to a Community College", I just continued on suggesting it's just worthless, and I'm sick of this.

Hell, I even think about going up to my parents and saying "Here, have some of my money if that's what it takes to stay in this home". I'm more than 90% sure I probably make more money than my mom, easily.

I don't know, I'm just sick of this and felt like getting this out.


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Posted on 04-12-06 10:55 PM Link | Quote
Well it's reassuring that my dad told me today, they're trying their best to find a place with a finished basement that I could have to myself.

For a minute when I thought about posting this, I thought "It seems kind of selfish to feel like I need my own basement", but then I thought elsewise. I mean, I've lived in 11 different homes, it would be great to have my own dungeon in the house to myself after all of this hassle.

But I might not get my own bathroom, but oh well.


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Posted on 04-13-06 12:28 AM Link | Quote
I don't think that is selfish at all really. You're older now, you need your space. I wish I could get a bigger seperate room... but my brother is still living in it (he turns 40 this year).

It does suck that you have to move, I wouldn't really know the feeling since I've lived in this house since I was born... but I can imagine what it would be like.
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Posted on 04-19-06 09:44 PM Link | Quote
Well as it turns out today my dad says at the dinner table "Well, we'll probably be getting a smaller house".

Me: " ............ does it have a basement?"
Dad: "No."

Bullshit. I have too many things of my own for a bedroom.

I should just move out.


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